Smadar Prager, CGP

 Psychotherapy, Counseling & Guidance 

It's all about relationships!

Parenting | Marriage | Intimacy

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Life is all about relationships. With others, and with ourselves.
It's also full of conflicts, with others and... with ourselves :-)
Happiness and contentedness are a result of learning how to balance those contradicting forces.

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What I learned from Rebbitzen Jungries A'H

Posted on September 12, 2016 at 11:25 AM Comments comments (34500)

I had a very great Zechut (privilege) to know Rebbetzin Jungries personally. Not for very long, and not so close, but enough to feel like I lost my grandmother.


I met her by chance. I know there're no coincidences, and all is orchestrated from above, but at the time it happened it felt totally random.


In the beginning of 2015, while sweating in physical therapy after a knee surgery, the ba...

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What I learned in 30 years of marriage

Posted on July 15, 2016 at 4:15 PM Comments comments (10926)

Last week, 7.7, we are celebrating 30 years of marriage.

This is some of the things I learned over the years:

1. That HaShem loves me very much – He sent him to me.

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When Expectations Differ

Posted on May 31, 2016 at 1:30 PM Comments comments (2306)

Mr. and Mrs. H. have an endearing habit. Every morning, they sip tea together and chat a bit before each turns to his/her daily routine. Their favorite location is their small kitchen table located next to the big window which overlooks the greenery outside and the neighbors’ houses. For the past few weeks, every time their neighbor comes out to hang her laundry, Mrs. H. gets this look in her eyes. She clicks her tongue and says in disapprovement, ̶...

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Build yourself into it!

Posted on May 3, 2016 at 3:35 PM Comments comments (1813)

While watching ‘Rehab Addict’ on HGTV, Mr. Chester Bushman, Nicole Curtis’s 90 year old grandfather, said this heartfelt sentence, "When you are building a home, you are building yourself into it, just like marriage!"

I watched and thought to myself that there is no substitute to old age wisdom; that we have so much to learn from our elders and that there's so much unparalleled value of strength and support in keeping, mainta...

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Three ways

Posted on February 6, 2016 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (12415)


There are three ways to respond when another lashes out at you, yelling and complaining.

The first one is to stay quit and indifferent, and allow the other to explode with anger.

The second one is to lash out right back at him/her.

The third one is to calmly and pleasantly respond to the ‘what’ and not to the ‘how’. Meaning to the issue and not the way the is...

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Don't go to sleep angry!

Posted on September 11, 2015 at 1:45 PM Comments comments (14581)

In the house where I grow up, I didn’t get the chance to learn couplehood[1] first hand.

Being in awe from the fact that there are couples that not only live together after the age of 50, but actually really like each other, I asked my future mother in law an advice before our wedding, “How do you do that? How do you get to this fantastic achievement?”

Her answe...

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10 Back to School Essentials:

Posted on September 1, 2015 at 2:25 PM Comments comments (2541)

1. Always prepare cloths and backpacks with the child the night before.


2. Make sure going to bed is a pleasant experience (and on time!).


3. Wake up the kids relaxed & with a smile (music is always a plus).


4. Allow enough time to calmly organize (you too).


5. Don't skip a nutritious breakfast (not milk & cereal).


6. Send a nutritious snack with a loving smiling encouraging note inside.

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About Demons and Caves

Posted on May 20, 2015 at 6:25 PM Comments comments (14508)


Once upon a time there was a very enlightened and holy Buddhist monk.

He lived in an isolated cave, on a mountain side, and occupied his time only in prayers and reflections all day and all night.

And one day he returned to his cave only to find th...

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